1 - I'm on my way to the supermarket the other day listening to the radio like I always do. I'm singing along to the lyrics of Everything You Want by vertical Horizon when suddenly I have an epiphany! Do you know the song I'm talking about? It goes,” he is everything you want, he is everything you need… but he means nothing to you and you don't know why”?
This is a truly amazing song if you can stop and think about what the words are really saying. The song is describing the lifelong plight of the “nice guy”. It's surprising how many nice guys have problems hooking up with women. They can’t get a date because of the simple fact that they are TOO nice.
2 - It's really very clear cut when you think about it. The nice guy doesn't get the girl BECAUSE he is a nice guy. Since he's a nice guy - women do not feel attracted to him. This is the kind of man that women are friends with -- not lovers.
The simplicity of it all struck me while I was listening to Everything You Want. These nice guys are everything that women SAY they want. They are sweet, complementary and romantic, and they probably love their families and their mothers. But while he is everything she says she wants - she wants nothing to do with him.
3 - What you will see is the attractive woman going out with some no brain jock that chugs beer and reads at a first grade level and treats her like a pet. Why does the hot chick date the dumb jock? It's very simple -- she feels attraction for him.
What I am NOT saying is that you should be rude or treat women like crap. What I do want to tell you is that in order to get a date you need to create attraction with a woman from the beginning. You need to create that attraction and fan the flames to keep it going.
4 - So what does a single man do to accomplish this? There are any number of things you can do, but one of my personal favorites is using a little humor combined with roguish behavior (otherwise known as Cocky Comedy). In other words - you need to bust her balls and keep her on her toes at all times. She needs to NOT know what you might do next in order to keep her from being able to tell if her charms are working on you.
5 - Nice guys are the first to let women know they are attracted to them by giving them compliments, buying them drinks and generally treating her like a queen. But what this does is it kills the attraction because it kills the game for a woman. The dumb jock is not going to let her know how much he wants her or how attracted he is. He is going to make her be the one to vie for his attention. That, my friend, is what will get you the girl.
6 - Keep these words in mind if you're that unlucky nice guy. Keep the lyrics in mind and remember to quit being the man she thinks she wants and start being the man you know she wants. To read more about why bad boys get the girl and nice guys get to go home click here